Can anyone please help me to answer these questions thank you.
Since you are the first to choose SET, I thought I would bounce off of your response to talk more about it. The Social Exchange Theory (SET) is based on an economic model. SET basically says that we measure the rewards we get out of a relationship against the costs of the relationship to decide if it is worth continuing. It is a bit more complicated and you can read about immediate, forecasted, and cumulative rewards and costs on pages 266 – 268. If a person is staying in a relationship, then according to SET, the rewards outweigh the costs.
When I first heard about the social exchange theory (SET), I was horrified that people could be so calculating in a relationship. I took the costs and rewards more on a monetary level as that is how it was first taught to me. I didn’t think relationships should be about money. I thought maybe at the beginning of a relationship you would weigh whether it was worthwhile, but way into a relationship, you shouldn’t be at the quid pro quo stage.
Now, I realize this is not really about money. It was based on economics, but I think it can be more about feelings and emotional rewards as well. I have heard it was posited that people are essentially selfish and only do altruistic behaviors to benefit themselves. I would like to offer this thought. We never have just one reason to do anything. Maybe doing something for someone else makes you feel good, but feeling good does not take away the reason of helping. It is an added bonus.
In terms of SET, that warm and fuzzy feeling you get from doing something nice for someone else is part of the rewards you receive. It may cost you in terms of money and time, but the balance is the emotions. That doesn’t make you selfish and only out to get what you can.
Class – If you use SET, how would you explain people staying in a relationship where they always argue or even put up with emotional and physical abuse. What would make it worth that?
2-We collect different perceptions of a person to form an impression that we then use to measure their behavior against. According to impression formation theory, we base our impressions of how people look, how they act, what they say, and what we hear about them. This impression then affects how we interact with this person.
One of the professors where I went to grad school studied the interactions between instructors and students in the classroom. They manipulated whether the instructor had a positive or negative impression of the students. Students who were thought of as smart received higher grades on assignments than students who were thought of as less smart.
Class – think about people you know that you either like or dislike. Are there certain behaviors from those people that you will respond to differently based on how you feel about them? Anyone want to share?